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Anyone reading this title would immediatly think "Love." No questions asked. Because that's what it's said to be, right? "It is better to have loved then lost then to never have loved at all." Everyone is looking for "The One." Everybody has somebody to love. I mean, love makes you feel good, right? Love makes everything seem better, right? Now, I won't say to love and to be loved isn't the best feeling. I believe when 2 people love each other equally they will feel good. But the fact is, love is not the most sought after feeling to be given from someone else. That would be respect.

Think about it. Respect is all we ever want. Respect of our parents, friends, friend's friends. High school is the prime example. Going into, say, grade 10, you want to be respected by your parents, by your teachers, by the seniors, by all your friends and people your age because you want to be popular, by the freshmen, the niners who roam around like a herd of scared antelope. Staring up at you in awe.

When it comes to love, people tend to earn it. And generally, if something bad, or artificial, is done to obtain it, it usually isn't "true love." But respect. People will do anything for respect. People will sell out their friends, to be respected by their elders. People will try drugs and alchohol because they want thier friends to respect them. People join gangs, and do illegal things, because they want to be respected by that group of people. People will hurt thier friends, or even thier/boyfriend/girlfriend/spouce,  because they want to be respected by others. Everybody has done it. Everybody has done something bad, because they want respect. Very few people, if not nobody, says "Hey. I'm gunna try marajuana, because I want to."

The odd thing is, respect never lasts, unless you leep it up. Quite often, to have respect, you need to keep up a charade. An act. Do something you don't want to do or feel uncomfortable with, just so those people wiill continue to respect you. Even though it's so obvious that it's not who you are. For some reason humans crave respect. They crave that feeling of being part of something. And enough is never enough. Like a drug that's latching onto your brain, it keeps telling you you want more. And it will eventually end. People try so hard to make friends, but 99% of all your friends you will lose touch with. Only those worth having are the ones you should hold onto. Because the ones worth having are the ones that like and respect you, for YOU.

So my questions is, why not just have 2 or 3 close friends and forget about everyone else? Because everybody can't be friends. It's just how humans have evolved. Tribes killed each other. Monkeys fought for territory. People wouldn't be fighting all the time, and you wouldn't have to try and choose who you want to hang out with on certain days.

Personally, I hate respect. And, I don't mean to sound conseded, but 99% of my life, I have only ever needed the respect of myself. But it still stings to lose the respect of close friends. All roads must come to an end right? Eventually everyone will stop repsect you. Whether you die, they die, or they just stop. It will eventually become no more.

But to have love, you must have respect. And unless your partner respects you for you, it's not worth it, right? Once again, it becomes a lying game. A game of charades and falisies. And then it's not real love. The most important thing to remember, is to respect yourself before you try to gain the respect of anyone else. And always ask yourself, "Will I still repsect myself after I do whatever it is I'm about to do to gain the respect of these people?" If the answer is no, then it's not worth it.